I think you should use whatever words you want. But are you interested to know what it might mean to gay men? Well, the word “faggot” really means a bundle of sticks used for kindling in a fire. Now, in the Middle Ages, when they used to burn people they thought were witches, they used to burn homosexuals too. They would burn the witches at a stake, but they thought homosexuals were too low and disgusting to be given a stake to be burned on, so they used to just throw them in with the kindling. With the other faggots. So that’s where you get the term “flaming faggot.” You might wanna know that every gay man in America has probably had that word shouted at them when they’re being beaten up, sometimes many times, sometimes by a lot of people all at once. So when you say it, it kind of brings that all back up.